Hugs, physical touch, connection, love vibes. That’s what this little Noosa Celebrant is missing the most from the covid19 lockdown.
When performing weddings it’s not just about the words and vows that are shared. It’s also about the vibes and the feelings, sharing in the love, hugging it out with congratulation kisses from cheek to cheek and high fives in the air. I call this connection. It’s easy to connect with someone via phone, skype, email and at the shops, but deep connection when your face to face with someone, to me, is about being in the moment, feeling into the energy of that moment and running with your emotions which usually includes some form of physical touch. Particularly during an elopement when the sacred space is so intimate, emotional and heightened with passion. It’s an all in frenzy of feels and vibes!
For me, my love language has always been a mix of all the love languages but since I was a young child, physical touch has played a big role in my up bringing and now as an adult. Never in my life (until NOW) have I been told I can’t touch someone; I can’t hug it out, I can’t congratulate someone physically, I can’t handshake and there will definitely be no kisses on the cheeks, high fives, fist pumps or holding of rings.
To be completely honest, it sucks! I won’t lie. And feeling the lack of connection in my community and during a ceremony WITH physical touch is something I am really having to get use to (and get my head around) on every level. It feels strange, it feels awkward, it doesn’t feel natural or right. That is just for me though. Perhaps for some people, they are probably loving it right about now as physical touch may never have been their love language and may never have been something they were ever comfortable with in the first place – so this is their time to lap up the comfort zone feels in their personal space.
So what does this new norm now look like for me moving forward at a wedding? Well, to be fair, I’m playing it by ear…. (yes, that still means abiding by the law - if I have too) …. feeling the feels and the emotional highs and riding that wave with air hugs and kisses 1.5m away from couples. Although it feels very strange and somewhat not right, my intentions are pure, and I know my couples feel the love and my well wishes that beam like liquid light from my aura for them.
I’m not sure if I could ever live in a world for years on end where we have no touch or physical contact again, because for me, connection on every level is like blood to the veins. It’s where my soul is rewarded and my cup is filled to the brim because of people, connection, touch, love and a sense of real communion and sacredness. At weddings, this is paramount.
I’m looking forward to the day that I can hug it out again with all my couples and not just couples, but their families and friends also, and the amazing professionals that I plan and work with at weddings. When you are a Celebrant who feels deeply passionate about love, people and connection, these feelings of mixed emotions must only be natural – so I’m telling myself. I seriously can’t wait for the restrictions on social distancing to lift (hopefully sooner rather than later) where we can all once again HUG IT OUT, CONNECT, FEEL, KISS, HANDSHAKE, HIGH FIVE, FIST PUMP, SMACK SOME ARSE CHEEKS AND BRING THE PHYSICAL TOUCH back to the celebrations.
I can’t wait to connect with a cuddle again soon. Unit then, it’s virtual hugs and a heart full of excitement for a new wave of connection to come.
Laughter & Love Always,
Natalie X
Noosa and Sunshine Coast Celebrant
The Sunny Celebrant
